Hey Fellas!!!
Hope you are alive, safe, and healthy...
Well, fellas wouldn't you agree that the topics and the headlines of my blogs I pick are always something unique and special, or maybe not, just different angles to the same thing right? you might never ever have noticed...well that's what I believe there exist just not only one single angle to the multiple version of single-story narrated to you by some less smart people but also there is a different angle to that story which you are not aware of...the real one may be the smartest one which may have emotional and intelligence angle and it's you who have to decide which one you feel comfortable with based on who you are. So, come on fellas just come out of your comfort zone and start seeking truth and who knows the truth may be right in front of you but you have always ignored it just because of some shitty people's opinion or maybe those orthodox beliefs of yours...So, Now it's time to break the stereotype. So, fellas here from the box and garden of wisdom I present to you the most important aspects and phase in the struggle of my journey...A.K.A The Stubnorness !!!...fellas being stubborn is right or wrong ...or so-called as
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So here we start to discuss the science of stubbornness!!!
Who is stubborn???
You may have seen many people around you, who are very possessive with their ideas, opinions, and thinking. These people are known as stubborn.
Stubbornness is a peculiarity of a personality in which a person does not will to change his/her opinions, thoughts, and prejudices against anything or person, and determine the position and decision which they have taken before.
These people are firm in following their own thoughts and opinions. They are very much possessive of their ideas and opinions and one will get harsh opposition and resistance from them if in any way he/she tries to inflict change on them.
This trait is not always seen negatively because stubbornness results in many qualities which are quite helpful in achieving any aim without being affected by the contrary notions and opinions prevailing in society. Some of these qualities are determination, optimism, dedication, problem-solving and perseverance, etc. These are the desired qualities of every person who is working on any aim.
What, many people think that stubborn persons are very rigid concerning their opinions and stands. But actually, they are aware of their desires and their merits, so they are very firm with their desires and what they deserve and don’t want to settle for less than these things.
Why a person is stubborn?
Usually, stubborn people behave normally on every occasion, but sometimes it happens that their stubbornness gets triggered during an event or interactions when someone tries to challenge their opinions and ideas.
If someone wanted to understand the reason behind this behavior then one needs to understand first that most human behaviors are reward-seeking and pain avoiding. We cannot generalize a common reason behind the stubbornness of many people. Because it may happen that N number of people can be stubborn for N number of different reasons.
Sometimes the reason behind stubbornness is the reward like people know if they wanted to achieve something they have to be stubborn so that they can resist their opposition from society, like if we take an example of a person who wanted to pursue his passion and everyone around him is against it then he needs a strong power in him to resist those oppositions. And that power of resistance is stubbornness.
What do you get by having a stubborn personality?
There are many qualities associated with this trait of stubbornness that is the following-
Determination
The stubborn people are great problem solvers because they continuously face the opposition in their life and they become firm and determined in their work and aim. They do not fear facing hurdles, and they are resolute in working on their aim or motive.
They make the famous say of “never say quit” a reality because they always work with an optimistic vision and think there is always a solution to a problem and the only issue to solve it is finding the solution. And ultimately this approach makes them find the solutions to even the most complicated issues.
And with this determination, the stubborn people are pathfinders of their own aims, with their own opinions and ideas.
Decision making
The stubborn people are very much aware of their desires, and they also know it needs actions to achieve them. For which they need to make decisions and then work on it.
It doesn’t mean that they make the decision in rush and do not think of it too much. But, they make decisions based on plans which they are going to execute, and this helps them to work with proper clarity, and due to which it becomes easy for them to make decisions and subsequently get a clear path.
Passion
They always try to rebut every argument which opposes their beliefs and opinions and use to fight for it till last; even their rebuttals are continuously wasting. They think that the opinions and beliefs are always right and it is worth hearing them.
Stubbornness doesn’t always tend to make a person contained to only their ideas and opinions and makes them close-minded. But some stubborn people are open and welcoming to other perspectives too till their own ideas and beliefs are not challenged.
Although whatever the world says one thing is significant in this is that stubborn people have their own minds and do not have to follow the others, and they work on their own planning which makes them be self-empowered persons. They fight for their passions and have the rights to be heard.
Definite boundaries
In addition to all these qualities, stubborn people are well aware of their boundaries and they are very skilled in maintaining them. They don’t like to do compromise themselves and never do something that makes them uncomfortable or against their ideas and opinions.
It is close to impossible to sway stubborn personalities from their values by inflicting our own opinions on them. This makes them more passionate and determined. It doesn’t mean that these people are self-centric but it means that they want to pursue the things which are of utmost importance for them, in their own way. This makes them self-guiding and pathfinder for themselves.
Stubbornness and success
We all are aware of a famous tagline of WWE superstar John Cena “Never Give Up”. If you thoroughly examine this line you will get some element of stubbornness in it for sure. Because when you want to win any obstacles you have to take the approach of never giving up, and the one who stands even after facing so many failures ultimately wins the obstacle and becomes successful. If we take an example of famous scientist Thomas Alva Edison he made more than 1000 unsuccessful attempts in discovering electric bulbs. If he was not stubborn about it then maybe today we do not have the electric bulbs.
Final Thoughts....
Why we face difficulty in agreeing to the fact that being stubborn is just a part of human behavior and it cant be neglected sometimes because it is triggered based on one's ability to handle their vulnerability(weak emotions, things one usually give up on) in a particular situation now some know how to handle one while some are still learning. But for me I feel am vulnerable to love and kindness and being polite and manners. If to those for whom good is underrated and they can take a stand for hate, false talks, and toxicity why not we take a stand for love, compassion, and positivity. Let them think what they think because they are assuming but we are not. Every time we do something good and think positively or differently rather than giving in to negativity and toxicity we are creating a bond of reciprocity that another person is obliged to reflect. So, why not create a world that is driven by compassion and politeness where everyone has some role to play and do their work without being corrupt or being part of politics especially for corporate people or any other workplace you may be working in for whatsoever domain.
Someone somewhere on this earth has said...
"Safalta Unko Milti Hai Jinki Tayyari Achi hoti hai..."
To that our Great Man Replied...
"Aur Manzil Unhe milti hai jinke Hoslo mai Zid hoti hai...Kyu ki sirf safal hona hi manzil nahi...manzil ki shuruat hai😉!!!"
That's all from my side fellas...see you in the next episode!!!
Shukran, Alvida, Basalmaat, Take Care All you lovely fellas...!!!
Except those who are not stubborn to kindness...